The one who tolerates can survive

'Je Shauye she rauye'Bangla Proverb,I have heard it at the age of 20.Then I could understand the verbal meaning of this proverb but there is always an inner meaning of any phrase which actually strike your heart,your thought process.When you apply any proverb or phrase on life of others or yourself then only you can understand the actual meaning.Me,now at the age of 39, can understand every aspect of this proverb.'The one who tolerates can survive ',at the time of marriage with all gifts every elder used to gift this proverb to brides.And with the passing years they used to whisper at ears that it is the truth of successful married life that you have to tolerate,this is the path by which you can build a strong and long relationship.
But at what cost?None of the person takes interest to assess the cost what a person pay for this toleration.And one more thing if this proverb exists that means injustice,violence or inhuman acts also exist which one has to tolerate and everyone expects the existence of all these unexpected behaviour in a relationship.What does it mean that nobody tries to remove the poison but they give the anti-poison medicine---tolerance in your hand so that you can survive.